Monday, June 1, 2009

Spirituality - Listening To Your Inner Voice

"I knew it!"
"I should have done it!"
"Oh, I regret doing it."

We hear these frequently from ourselves or the people around us, yet many of us are none the wiser to the inner voice that has been calling out to us.  And then there're some of us who felt the "mixed signals" of our inner voice, that it sometimes works and other times not.

Why is that so?

Throughout many religions and cultures, the inner voice is interpreted as a spiritual guide from the Above.  While it's romantic to feel this way, I'd like to highlight that all human beings are equipped with this inner voice to help our lives fruitfully, and no one is excluded to this privilege.

To really harness our inner voice, we've to first "train" ourselves to its frequency by the following ways.

** Please note that they are not exhaustive nor conclusive.  The points below are to serve as a generic guide.

Note the emotion whenever an inner voice emerges

The emotion that accompanies the true inner voice is often calm, with nary an excitement/frustration/fear etc etc.  The voice normally "talks" in a very stoic manner.

The length of time the inner voice stays or comes

It normally comes fast as a lightning, and leaves without a trace.  Meaning, it won't linger long enough for the mind to digest into a thinking process.  And sometimes, it comes in the most unexpected manner.

Like, a thought flashed into your mind suddenly while watering the plants, "Shouldn't go to the supermarket later."

If the emotion at that very moment is calm and stoic, it is the inner voice.  However, the same thought can pop up again and again till the final action is carried out, be it listened to or not, and then it'll stop.

Trust that everything you need an answer for will be answered

It's important to have faith for the inner voice to have its place in your life, otherwise, its frequency of serving you will be erratic.

Normally, whenever one has an issue in mind that needs a decision/choice to be made, the common SOP is to get the mind churning of pros and cons, the implications of chosing either choice etc etc, and then gets thrown into a dilemma.

If the decision doesn't require immediate attention, one should take a break, let go of that decision/choice to be done, and tell yourself, "It's ok, I'll know what to do later," and went on what your daily chores.  Please don't pick up that decision making process again, or it wouldn't work.

When this faith is 100% in place, it kicks off a mental process unknown to you consciously and the answer will "pop up" to you mentally sometime down surfacing within hours or days.

Trust that inner voice 100%

Once it popped up with the above characteristics, it's highly important to execute the decision without a falter in the heart.  Trust is the key to harnessing that inner voice within you, or it wouldn't work.


In many successful people's lives, they often harness the reliability of the inner voice be it in their work or their family.  While many of them may not air this mode of action to others, one may get to hear these often........

"I don't know, I just do it."
"It just came."
"It just happen."
Eventhough strategising a business negotiation/project is highly important and these people understand the need behind it, the importance of going into the "flow" is also another key to their success.

If I may, I'd like to describe strategising is engineering the system to make a car run, whether the car reaches the destination the driver wants lies on the autopilot.  And that autopilot is the inner voice.

The inner voice isn't as mystic as it sounds, it's actually the end-product from a collection of memories within the sub-conscious mind of one's life so far, of everything one has experienced, felt, learnt, heard and spoke.

These collective series of memories are then processed into an unique "formula" (much like an autopilot software) within the soul level for an individual to journey in their life.

And normally, the inner voice's nemesis lies in one's mind, or I should explain it more explicitly as the Ego.

The Ego I'm referring to here isn't "pride".  It's the other side of the human psychology (or mind) where psychologists and psycho-analysts have been using as a description to a facade of one's personality.  And this Ego can be rather destructive if left to it's own devices without moral checks.

Within this Ego, there're 2 main characteristics that deprive the inner voice it's role in life and they're:

  • Fear
  • Doubt

As an average human being grows up, he/she would be conditioned by their family, environment, culture, peers, media etc to a generic thinking process when handling issues and decisions in life.

These generic thinking process are often the factors that prevent one from making the right decisions for themselves.  And because of the social and family pressures to conform, many developed the above 2 characteristics that prevents the inner voice from coming through.

Please don't misunderstand that I'm implying cutting off all contacts from the world, go into the mountain to meditate for answers in life which is impractical and more often than not, futile for most people out there.  I'm meaning to empower one to course their life by their own talents and strengths.

And by empowering one, there's a need for the inner voice to come through for the sake of self and not others.

This process of empowering doesn't make one selfish, it doesn't mean to heck it all and fritter away the life savings.  It also doesn't mean to dye the hair in bright red while working in a bank.

It's sensible reponsibility towards self.

But for empowerment to come in, one would need to have their pure inner voice in place above anything else.